I’m not ashamed to say that I have cried… yes cried over my hair before. The final episode of hair related weeping and corresponding indignity hasn’t occurred since achieving the age of maturity. I still get the piss-jitters when remembering that a not so secure, pre-pubescent me wailed (in PÙBLIQUE) over my hair! Gasp! I was 12, giving a speech, and my relaxer didn’t set right. A hyper-self-conscious me 'died' as all those eyes looked at me in what I determined was a state of complete disrepair. The reality was that no one was any the wiser and the audience thought (as many told me after) that I was overcome with the emotion of my "powerful" words. HA! Fooled ya!!! My vanity was the only thing that was overcoming me at that moment.
When watching a hair related segment on ”The Real” yesterday, I was again reduced to sniffles. After a brief introduction, the hosts aired the Dove Hair Care campaign Love Your Curls commercial. When asked the question, “Do you like your hair?” Several young (YOUUUNNNG) girls featured in the commercial gave emphatic “no’s”. When prompted further as to the reasons why, Ugh… the responses broke my heart. My younger self would have said exactly the same disparaging things.
According to “The Real” hosts we need to be careful about the messages we send about good or bad hair to our daughters, nieces, kid’s friends - all little girls. While I completely support that, I think the message needs to be a little deeper. Perhaps we should be more aware of making the comparassions that say this type, color, texure, of hair is more desirable than... and by the same token another hair is less desirable.
I don't think my own mother ever said a negative word about her hair but it was different than my tightly coiled locks and I constantly compared. My mother was Diahann Carroll/Dynasty fabulous while I didn’t see how that could ever be me. I browbeat myself with images, commercials, splashy magazine covers, when all that hairology is mostly extensions, lighting, silicone and Photoshop.
Perhaps more than the words we say, lets stop the slow death by comparison that we all unwittingly buy into, and accept and care for what we have.
See the Dove 'Love Your Curls' campaign
It’s always great to have brunch with a great girlfriend! Over delicious turkey sausage, eggs and pancakes, (YUMMY!) my friend, Felicia, who is a beauty aficionado, came to our little bruncha-lunch with her favorite hair goodies!!!! As she is always soooo put together. Nails! Hair! Clothes! BRAIN! Everything! I take all of her beauty cues seriously!
Just so you know, I’m going to have Felicia share her review of two of the products she brought to our meetup and then provide my unsolicited “never tried it” review.
Eden Body Works®
1. All Natural Coconut Shea Pudding Soufflé - washing product
Felicia: I am an avid deep conditioning fan so I use this product as a part of my deep conditioning mix. It leaves my curls manageable and soft, which helps with styling. The yummy scent gets a major thumbs up from me. I am not a wash and go fan for my 4b-c ish hair but I would recommend the product for that purpose as well if that works for you.
Olivia: Without knowing anything else about this product I guess it will be great for a driest of dry, super curly/kinky/coily girl (Type 4a-c)! I’m also pretty impressed with the ingredients list! There are some things I can’t pronounce… which always makes me think “How natural can this be if I can’t say it?” ;-) But the list is not long… so that’s good I think!
2. All Natural Coconut Shea Pudding Soufflé - styling product
Felicia: This has now become my "go-to" styler for everything from twist-outs to puffs. The consistency is creamy with a light scent. I find that my twist outs or natural curls are super defined, moisturized, and full of volume with this product. I loved that there was no build up from the use of the product Another added bonus for me is the holding power. My curls have been frizz free and defined during rainy and humid days and workouts as well. The best part is the price point! Each of the products retail for under 10 USD and are in fairly large bottles/jars.
Olivia: THE SMELL IS AMAAAAZZZIINNNNGGG! The Pudding Soufflé has the consistency of thickest fattiest most delicious custard! Excuse me but this was over brunch after all! This curl activator seems like it would be great in a 4b or 4c moisture retention regimen. My advice is to use it in a 'LOC' method to seal naturally thirsty Type 4 hair.
What is the 'LOC' method?
L - Apply liquid to the hair - I usually mist with water and leave in conditioner.
O - Follow with a not so viscous oil that your hair likes. I happen to enjoy jojoba oil or grape seed oil.
C - Add curl activator cream Coconut Shea Pudding Soufflé. Just a dollop should do as it appears rich and creamy. Be careful not to use too much as product sitting on top of your hair is not the business.
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We'll review more of Felicia's picks later - do you see that Pantene and Hair Rules sitting on the table?! YEAAASS!
Brunch Ladies! So much fun!